Too much information: Good for Parenting? By:Ms. Leofel Gulmatico

If there is one inspiring lesson we learned from these few years of being modern day parents is the fact that there is no one-size-fits-all parenting source. The sooner we realize and accept this fact, the lighter is the burden of that big word PARENTING for us parents.
Every time we attend children’s birthday parties, watch our kids at the play area, attend church activities, pay a visit to the grandparents, check our friends’ Facebook or Twitter accounts, or even just lining up at the cashier in the grocery, we expose ourselves to our vulnerability of comparing with the rest of the parents in the world (in an exaggerated manner). We may have asked ourselves questions such as: Why do they put their kids on the grocery push cart? How can she manage to bring 3 kids while doing a big grocery? Why is he just looking over while his 2 year old kid is struggling to climb the stairs in the play area? Why don’t they stop their kid from crying and shouting? Is reward system the best way to discipline a toddler? When is the best time to potty train? Am I doing a good job as a parent to my child? These are just a handful of the many questions we intrigue ourselves with. Therefore, we resort to several ways to enlighten us about how to be the perfect parents and usually we use technology, the exchange of experiences and the wisdom from our elders.
It is an acceptable fact that as parents, we should continuously learn in order to perform our significant roles very well. Therefore, using references, asking other people or any sort of material that can keep us rooted with the basics and the updates of parenting styles, techniques in child rearing and disciplining are all very much welcome. Furthermore, we realize that in the midst of our parenting experience the receiver of all these is the perfect gauge for our efforts as parents no matter what or who or which sources we base it from, are our children. It is their development that can tell us if we are on the right track or otherwise. In the end, it is them who mirror how we behave towards them and with the people around us. Do they say the magic words as please, thank you and sorry? Do they wait for their turn before they speak, are they sweet, polite, respectful, God fearing, neat, clean, etc.? Then the ball game is easy. Let us look at the recipients of our parenting and that is when we can modify our parenting styles and disciplining techniques.
It is us parents, with our human minds and our big hearts, who are the ultimate processors of information and only we can effectively integrate and synthesize facts in the light of our children.

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